There is no specific answer in the Bible on this subject except that the Bible clearly states that sex is for marriage. One important reason is that sex can produce children, who deserve to be conceived in the embrace of marriage. Additionally, science has now found that the act of sexual intimacy (making love) creates a powerful physical bond between the couple. There is no such thing as casual sex. Sex changes the hormones within both people to cement their loving relationship. As Jesus said, “The two shall become one flesh.”  Matt. 19:5, 6 So, no sex before marriage. But what about kissing, hugging, holding hands, or any physical touching? The Bible has no specific verses about kissing or any other signs of affection between a dating couple because “dating” like we do today probably did not exist in Biblical times.

The purpose of kissing is to show romantic affection. However, there is a danger when relating to a woman sexually as it could lead to a driving physical lust. Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

It is always advisable to ask God for wisdom and he will give you strength to withstand the temptation and help to avoid questionable circumstances. ..James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Realize that every affectionate interaction may lead to negative consequences.  Make sure that your intentions are honorable and in accordance with God’s guidelines regarding the prospect of marriage.  Avoid situations such as Samson had with his choices of women. Remember the headaches that Solomon encountered in his promiscuous relationships that took him away from God.

God gives us minds to use our own wisdom and judgement.  He teaches us general principles of life through His Word, the Bible. Each circumstance is different and each one should be led by his/her convictions on this subject. If you feel it’s ok to kiss in your relationship, do it cautiously. If you feel convicted, you probably should refrain.

1 John 3:20 If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.

Nevertheless, set the bar high and you will be rewarded.  If you lower the standard you will be tempted to do it again and again and might miss the mark of God’s excellence.