Sadly, homosexuality and bisexuality have become acceptable and lawful in many countries. However, the Bible clearly states that sexual union is only blessed between a man and a woman within the marriage relationship. Matthew 19:5, "…For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh…" [sexual intimacy]. Leviticus 20:13, “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable.” There is no wiggle room in Scripture to rationalize that homosexual or bisexual conduct is ok. It is an absolute in Scripture.

Today, most U.S. public high schools encourage teens to experiment with homosexual and bisexual urges in order to determine their sexual orientation. This is not biblical. We can all develop and nurture sinful desires. But when we realize we are being tempted to sin, we should follow Jesus’ example by praying, “Get behind me, Satan! For you are not on the side of God, but of men,” Mark 8:33 (RSV). James further emphasizes and promises if we “resist the devil…he will flee from you,” James 4:7.

A compassionate Christian may wonder how a homosexually or bisexually oriented person might live a full life if he is not in a sexual relationship. A full life is not dependent upon sexual intimacy. Our Lord Jesus was celibate. The Apostle Paul lived without sexual intimacy, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am,” I Corinthians 7:8. Therefore, celibacy is the Scriptural path for unauthorized sexual desires. Yes, it may be a very difficult course to follow, but all mankind struggle with fallen tendencies.

As a result of the fall, some struggle with rage, or addictions, or lust. Part of the Christian experience is battling the fallen flesh to be transformed into Christlikeness. As the Apostle Paul states, “I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord,” Romans 7:22-25 (NLT).

Simply stated: please tell your daughter to nurture her heterosexual feelings. If she feels homosexual urges, she needs to end that relationship. Most of us (heterosexuals and homosexuals) have experienced romantic break-ups. Choosing a godly mate is part of growing up.