I was married at age 17, we married not for love, but because we wanted to move to another state. In the state u were not allowed to live there unless u were 18 or married. After 3 years, my ex husband cheated on me. We divorced within a month.

It’s so sad when two people marry and commit their lives to each other, but then one breaks his vows and is unfaithful. Broken hearts, angry fights, mean words follow until the couple finally decides to end their precious union. It’s sad that you, both, were unable to repair your relationship. It’s usually better for people to repent of their sins, seek the forgiveness of their partners, and then renew their vows. Many times a marriage relationship can grow stronger and the each person will grow more Christlike, more mature when they work through their problems (with Christian counseling). But since your divorce has already occurred, let’s look at what the Bible says about this issue.

The most direct scriptures discussing divorce are found on the occasion when Jesus was asked by Pharisees, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” (Matt. 19:3 – 6) Jesus replied, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”  The sanctity of marriage is precious in the eyes of God and the oneness of marriage is a beautiful picture of the Christian’s relationship with Jesus as bride and bridegroom.

When the vow of faithfulness in becoming one flesh is violated by becoming “one flesh” with a third party, that is having sexual relations outside of the marriage, the original vow is broken and the innocent party is released from the commitment of marriage. Jesus continues to say in verse 9, “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” First, by saying “except for sexual immorality”, indicates that this is the only cause for divorce. Secondly, the guilty party through immoral actions has released the spouse from the marriage vow and she is free to move on with her life.

This same application is expressed in Matt. 5: 32, “But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; . . .” In other words, if sexual immorality had not been the cause of divorce, the divorce would not be acceptable and future marriage would not be appropriate under these terms. Only the act of sexual immorality breaks the original marriage commitment and frees the innocent partner.

In accordance with the scriptures, since your husband was unfaithful to you and broke his marriage promises to you, a divorce is scripturally proper and you are no longer married in the eyes of God.

May you, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. (James 4:8)  Pray always that our loving Heavenly Father will guide and direct your paths.  “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Prov. 3:6) Let your spiritual needs and desires be known to Him because the scriptures promise that if we . . . “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. (Matt. 7:7 – 8)