This is a very heartbreaking situation, which grieves our souls. Jesus, Himself, sacrificed marriage and children in order to fulfill His ministry. God’s will for Jesus was to die as the ransom price for Adam. He was to remain unmarried without natural children. Surely, when He had little children on His knee, He experienced the longing to have His own. Thus, Jesus understands when devoted Christians experience this same trial.
1 Peter 4:12-13 (NET), “Dear friends, do not be astonished that a trial by fire is occurring among you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice in the degree that you have shared in the sufferings of Christ, so that when his glory is revealed you may also rejoice and be glad.”
First, a couple should pray. Ask God to show them His will, and ask God, if it might please Him, to bless their desire to have children. Many rejoice by adopting children. God finds nothing wrong with adoption. He, Himself, has adopted us into His family. We “have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” Romans 8:15. Thus, adoption is a fine, scriptural option.
Additionally, we are living in a grand time of the great increase of knowledge (Daniel 12:4). We use computers, cars, modern appliances, and modern medicine to bless our lives. God may bless the use of in vitro fertilization or other fertility treatments to aid in your conception of a child. In vitro fertilization uses the husband’s sperm and the wife’s egg to form a fertilized egg outside the body. The fetus is then implanted into the mother.
Some couples choose to become an “aunt and uncle”, or they teach Bible classes and develop a youth ministry.
God will help you to see which options are best for your lives. Continue to seek wisdom remembering to cast all of your care upon Jesus, for He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. … For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” Isaiah 41:10-13.